“I’m not trying to make you feel guilty or bad. I’m just trying to love you with the truth.”
You know how people say the truth hurts? Well that is most certainly the truth. What I have found is that people REALLY don’t want the truth. We say we do, but really, we are afraid of blunt, honest honesty! Sadly, we are shocked when people are honest and label them as harsh or “brutally” honest!
When people ask for your opinion, what they really want you to do is sugar coat it or, in essence, lie to them! When people ask you to be honest—what they really want is for you to coddle them and, in essence, lie! When people are being yucky and negative or down right hateful and they want to justify it—what they want you to do is commiserate with them and tell them that they are justified in being mad or sad or bitchy! What they don’t want you to do is tell them to get out off of their pity pot and get over it.
I know that this isn’t anything new. I know that I am have wanted people to commiserate or sugar coat or whatever. I know that I haven’t always wanted to hear the truth! But I guess what I want now is to live a life that is real and authentic and have people in my life who call me on my crap. I want the truth, no matter how much it hurts. I want people who can be honest and candid and forthcoming about how I am acting or what I am doing; and I hear them and make the adjustment. I just want people to love me with the truth!
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